How Sleeping With Your Wife Can Be Harmful

In an article titled I'll be sleeping with my friends' wives until I die: I'm addicted to the power of cuckolding other men - and women just can't get enough of me too, an anonymous man confesses to sleeping with his friends' wives. He explains that he is not a snake-hipped Lothario but an average-looking bloke who is good at listening to women and making them feel heard. He claims that he is not deliberately seeking out married women, but that it is just how it happens. The man also reveals that he has been married twice and cheated on his first wife throughout their relationship.

I'm a sex addict and have slept with dozens of my friends' wives

I first discovered this "talent" when I was a teenager. I was often ignored by my family and felt neglected, so I became a sounding board for my brothers' girlfriends. I listened to their insecurities, their dreams, and their feelings. I ended up having my first sexual experience with one of my brother's girlfriends, and I felt a rush of power and control. This pattern continued into my adult years, and I found myself pursuing married women, especially those attached to men I knew. I work in financial technology, and I often attend networking events and social soirées. These provide ample opportunities to meet the wives and girlfriends of my colleagues and business associates. I find that my British accent and my ability to listen and pay attention to women give me an advantage in seducing them. I've never deliberately set out to sleep with my friends' wives, but it just seems to happen. I'm not the most attractive or charismatic guy, but I've always been able to charm my friends' wives and sleep with them. I've slept with dozens of married women over the years, and I don't plan on stopping anytime soon. I know it's a risky game, but I enjoy the thrill and the sense of power I feel when I sleep with someone I shouldn't be.

I've been married twice, and both marriages ended partly because of my infidelity. My first wife discovered my numerous affairs and kicked me out. My second marriage is still intact, but I've struggled to remain faithful. I know it's wrong, but I can't seem to control my urges. I've sought therapy, but the craving for sex with someone I shouldn't be sleeping with sometimes overrides all rational arguments. I understand the potential consequences, but I can't seem to stop. I'm addicted to the thrill and the sense of power and control I feel when I sleep with my friends' wives. I know it's hurtful, and I've tried to change, but the urge is always there. I genuinely hear what women are saying, and I find it much more interesting than anything their husbands ever say. I know it's a dangerous game, but I can't seem to quit.

I know my behaviour is harmful and unethical, but I can't seem to stop. I've tried to change, but the craving for forbidden sex is too strong. I understand the potential consequences, and I know I could lose everything if I'm caught. However, the thrill and the sense of power I feel when I sleep with my friends' wives are too addictive. I'm a good listener, and I use that skill to my advantage to seduce these women. I know it's a risky game, and I've had a few close calls, but so far, I've managed to get away with it. I know I should stop, but I can't seem to quit. I'm addicted to the power and the thrill of sleeping with someone I shouldn't be, and I don't see myself changing anytime soon.

I'm a 'fairly average looking bloke' but I'm a pro at seducing my friends' wives

I'm a fairly average-looking bloke but I'm a pro at seducing my friends' wives. I don't set out to sleep with other men's wives deliberately. It's just how it happens. To be honest, I get away with it because I'm the last person you'd expect to seduce your wife: I'm not exactly Brad Pitt. I'm a fairly average-looking bloke, 5ft 10in, Jason Statham bald with the beginnings of a dad paunch.

But I'm never going to be one of those men you spot on the tennis court who are happiest in male company. You won't find me at the 19th hole, pint in hand, boring on about my injuries. The truth is I find male company crashingly dull. I'd far rather be entertained by their partners.

I didn't, and don't, set out to sleep with other men's wives deliberately. It's just how it happens. To be honest, I get away with it because I'm the last person you'd expect to seduce your wife: I'm not exactly Brad Pitt. I'm a fairly average-looking bloke, 5ft 10in, with a bald head like Jason Statham and the beginnings of a dad paunch.

I'm very rarely wrong about a woman's level of interest in me. She was easy to find on social media and in fact accepted a lunch invitation more quickly than I'd expected.

I do what I usually do, which is a surreptitious 10-second appraisal: brunette, curvy figure, yoga-toned arms by the looks of them. Bingo!

I understand. My sexual yearnings are exactly the same. If a woman isn't attached to a friend or married to a colleague, then I'm afraid the sexual pizzazz just isn't there.

I've been cuckolded twice by men I thought were friends - one took pride in utterly humiliating me.

I suspect there are many more of us than you think, and secondly, no one gets hurt if no one finds out.

I suspect I will be the same - still eyeing up my friends' wives until my dying day.

I'm a 'listening expert' and use it to my advantage

I'm a listening expert and use it to my advantage. I've honed my listening skills since my teens, and it's become my secret weapon. I'm not a natural extrovert, but I've learned to be a good conversationalist by being a good listener. I've found that people love to talk about themselves, and I've become adept at asking questions that encourage them to open up. This has helped me in my career, as I'm able to build strong relationships with clients and colleagues. It's also helped me in my personal life, as I'm able to connect with people on a deeper level. I find that when I truly listen to others, they feel heard and valued. This has led to some great friendships and even a few romantic relationships. I've found that being a good listener has made me a better partner, as I'm able to understand my partner's needs and wants. It's also helped me to be more patient and empathetic. Overall, being a good listener has brought me a lot of success and happiness, and I plan to continue using this skill to my advantage in the future.

I'm a 'workaholic' and that's helped me seduce my friends' wives

I'm a self-confessed workaholic, and that's helped me seduce my friends' wives. I work in financial technology, often crunched to 'fintech', and while I hate networking events, they do provide an opportunity to meet the wives of my colleagues. I'm on my second marriage, and I've been unfaithful countless times. I've never set out to deliberately sleep with other men's wives, but it just happens. I think it's the thrill of the chase and the feeling of power that comes with it. I've always found male company dull, and I'd much rather be entertained by their partners.

I've honed my listening skills over the years, and I genuinely hear what women are saying. I find it much more interesting than anything their husbands ever say. I first discovered this talent when I was a teenager, listening to my brothers' girlfriends confide in me. I ended up having my first sexual experiences with one of my brother's girlfriends when I was 15. The feeling of one-upmanship combined with the afterglow of orgasm was beyond edifying.

I've always been good at spotting a woman's interest in me, and I'm rarely wrong. I met Lydia* at a work event, and after a quick appraisal—brunette, curvy figure, yoga-toned arms—I knew she was interested. I was right, and she accepted my lunch invitation. I never felt a smidgen of guilt about my colleagues. Who's to say they weren't doing the same? As for guilt towards my wife, I'm afraid not.

I take pleasure in my extra-marital affairs, and I've never felt satisfied with women who aren't attached. I once got one of the women I was sleeping with to befriend my wife and invite her to mother and toddler groups. I deliberately drift between social circles, and any male friends who suspect what I'm up to are swiftly excommunicated. No one wants an embarrassing showdown, do they?

I know there are many more like me, and no one gets hurt if no one finds out. I suspect I'll be eyeing up my friends' wives until my dying day.

I'm a 'sexual yearner' and only get a thrill from sleeping with my friends' wives

I'm a self-confessed sexual yearner and thrill-seeker, and for me, that means sleeping with my friends' wives. It all started when I was a teenager and had my first sexual experiences with my brother's girlfriend. I felt a rush of power and control that I had never known before. I was the youngest of three boys and often felt neglected by my parents, so this new feeling was addictive.

As I got older, I started to seek out these secret relationships with married women. I enjoyed the thrill of the chase and the power I felt when I contemplated the men I was cuckolding. I felt special and in control, but also unimportant and invisible. It was a heady combination that I couldn't resist. I knew I was hurting people, but I told myself that no one would get hurt as long as no one found out.

Over the years, I've slept with dozens of my friends' and colleagues' wives. I'm not your typical Lothario—I'm just an average-looking bloke. But I've always had a way with women, especially those who are attached to someone else. I think it's because I genuinely listen to them and give them a non-judgmental space to get things off their chest. I understand women in a way that most men don't.

I've been married twice, and both times I've promised myself that I would be faithful. But the craving for forbidden sex is too strong, and I always end up giving in to my impulses. I know it's wrong, but I can't seem to stop. I'm in my late 50s now, and I don't see myself changing my ways anytime soon. I accept that this is who I am, and I'm not going to apologise for it.

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